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With a little (LOT) help from my friends…

19 Apr

When I’m having a rough day, I try to remind myself to ‘let it go or be John Lennon…

Today, I’m changing that to ‘let it go or be RINGO!

Yes.  Today, I’m honoring the sheepish Beatle who sings “with a little help from my friends.”  Because I get SO much from them.

For instance, HONESTY.  I love my friends for their honesty.  And, for the latent permission it allows me.  Isn’t that a rub?!

We walk around with such (unfair!) super-human expectations of ourselves and then BAM!  A friend.  A beloved friend comes in and blesses us with vulnerability.  What a gift.

Seriously though.  It is a gift.


It goes something like this:  ‘How are you doing?‘  Answer:  SINCERITY.  Truthfully, the answer doesn’t really matter.  It is a conduit.  It is a conduit for listening.  For connections.  For life.

Translation:  It’s probably not– “Okay.” Or, “Fine.”

It is our humanity not our (feigned) ‘normalcy’ that unites us.

What I LOVE about my friends is their bravery.  It inspires me to be real.  Honest.

I’m beginning to think that the point is not to have it ‘together’ but to have the courage to have the life you have.  OUT LOUD.

And, I have my friends to thank for that 🙂


Missing the Pin

16 Mar

This one is kinda AMAZING…

Maybe because it comes from my one of my inspiring best ladies L!

LOVE her… 🙂

It starts with PINTEREST.  Now, speaking honestly, which I really try to do, I know hardly anything about this viral site?  Except to say that people really love it.  And, it involves clicks and imaginary vision boards or food pictures or something…

Feel free to clue me in!

Then, people ‘pin’ these things on their avatar boards?  Or, something.  For a fantastic inspirational, sharing plate.  Or, fantastical reality.

Or, fantastic waste of time?… 😦

Thankfully, my (lack of) knowledge of pinterest, is not what this post is about…

It’s a framework…

More ‘pinning’:

How often do we stay stuck in (0n) the same story / job / delusion / ‘reality’ / website 😉 when we cognitively know it does not serve us?  How much time do we spending looking for a ‘quick’ external pin (or poke 😉 ) and find nothing?  Or, frivolity. Or, wanting.  Or, empty pursuit.

How much do we really MISS the pin entirely?

From my lovely L (with her permission):

L. is a smart, kind, articulate, realized, real woman.  She’s also a ‘victim’ of the world circa now and a HAPPY, new engagement.  Translation:  she likes the internetevenmore!

L. was telling me how she found something amazing that she wanted to add to her Pinterest profile for her upcoming wedding.  This makes sense.  But due to clusterf*ck that is using technology it was a bit complicated.

(HINT:  It’s always a bit complicated.)

In her effort to pin something she told spent an hour searching for the pin.  In effect wasting time…  Wasting energy…  Wasting what could have been nourishing minutes spent.

In effect:  she holistically missed the pin.

To note– those are her BRILLIANT words.  Not mine.

Now, I do not necessarily think that an hour on a website is a catastrophe, but, I do see her point.  It’s a practice.  We can too often get stuck in little details or even ‘some days’ and MISS out on our lives!  We can wait for next year’s taxes or the next job or the next relationship or the next external pinterest 😉 and pin our happiness to that.  That’s MISSING the pin!!!

It’s not OUT there.  It’s in you.

LIVE your life.  Google things sparingly.  LOVE your friends.  Don’t wait.

A little pinning is okay too… 😛