In yoga, there is a term for making conscientious efforts towards your goals while, simultaneously, allowing for non-attachment and ease with the resultant outcomes of your pursuits.
Because really– we do NOT have control. Not of the universe. Not even of our morning coffee.
I was reminded of this when writing a letter to my friend A. Too often, people can seem daft– even the well meaning ones! And, it is our nature to feel hurt. Misunderstood. Un-heard.
In cases of (mis)communication: How do we not take things personally?
What if it’s not about us? What if every communication has a back-story… (HINT: Every communication does have a back-story!) simply due to the fact that we are living our ‘story’. I mean aren’t you?!!!
Does yours have wishes and happy endings and CLARITY too?! 😛
Abstractly, I TOTALLY get this. I get how communication might as well be bird-calls sometimes to very untrained human ears.
Translated: It’s never about us.
But, what about when it feels like it is personal?! How do we swaha that and return to clear intention? How do we stop fighting the whining birds?!
Sidenote: My mother used to accuse me of “whining for the birds” and I guess it stuck!
My swaha: As some of you know, I’m opening a business. And, most people have the MOST generous, kind, lovely supporting offerings. And, some don’t.
BOTH ARE VALID.
And, honestly, probably none are really about me.
It’s been helpful for me to remember to try to take nothing personally. Because, even if it’s not business time, life is personal for each of us.
How do you say SWAHA in bird? 😛