So, then he punched him in the face…

18 Jan

Love comes in many forms.

This is a lesson I try to understand a lot.  Because, sometimes, the MOST loving thing doesn’t feel like love.  Sometimes, the most loving thing feels hard.  Like hurt even.   This is hard to understand…

Because, sometimes, it’s like we are flying upside-down and love— honest love will try to straighten us.  Except we don’t like this.

Half the time we don’t know we are upside-down in the first place…

But, love, love can right us.  Even when it knocks us down.

I struggle with this sometimes at work.  I facilitate a supervised dinner.  It’s a wonderful-hard-revelation-frustration thing.  I struggle sometimes between saying the ‘kind’ thing verses saying the ‘right’ thing.  Then, it occurred to me:  saying the ‘right’ thing IS saying the ‘kind’ thing.  Sometimes we get nowhere in couched niceties.  Sometimes love is calling out the bullshit.

Let me explain.  In story form!  This one is courtesy of my beautiful monk-friend I.

There were two monks mediating at a RAGING river.  Suddenly, a crazed man– we’ll call him Wilbur– showed up with the intent to cross the raging river.  This was a BAD choice.  The river was too wild to cross.  Death or dismemberment would surely insure…

The first monk came out of his mediation and approached Wilbur and tried to tell him not to cross the river.  He explained the risks associated.  He explained that Wilbur would likely die.  Still, Wilbur would not be convinced.  The monk recognized this and went back into his mediation…

Then, the second monk came into the scene.  This monk too tried to rationalize with Wilbur.  He explained that the choice to cross the river in this moment was tantamount to death.  Wilbur, again, would not listen…

So, then he punched him in the face. 

Wilbur was unconscious.  (In a lot of ways…)  But now, he could not cross the river.  Kudos to monk two!

Love hurts.  But, it also saves lives…

Sometimes, we need to say the hard things.  Take actions that feel aggressive.  Battle a little. 

Because we LOVE a lot.

What a BEAUTIFUL thing ❤


2 Responses to “So, then he punched him in the face…”

  1. Isaac Spencer January 18, 2012 at 12:18 pm #

    This reminds me of a Hafiz poem:

    • Jamie January 18, 2012 at 2:45 pm #

      You bring so much light into my life! Thanks 🙂

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