Stop. You’re naughty! That’s NOT what I mean.
This phrase caught my eye in an article that I read on adversity. The author argued that, along with death and taxes, one thing for sure in this life is hardship.
I think she may have a point.
Too often, we walk around with our Pollyanna on pretending to be flawless. This seems daft to me, since we all know it’s a lie. (Really. We’ve ALL got stuff. Even the prettiest ones…)
What I love is the wonder of how we get through things. Flaws and all. It is there that we reflect our light.
“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in. “
– Leonard Cohen
So, let’s embrace our suck. And, we might as well take a little care too.
Here are some of my ‘how to’ embrace suck:
1) Feel it. For real. Don’t ignore, avoid, eat, drink, lie, or band-aid your way around it. Just watch yourself
living crying out loud.
2) Speak it. Now, this doesn’t mean everyone needs to know your business… BUT someone should! Let yourself be heard. Say what you need to say (John Mayer!). You deserve that. Always. You deserve open-hearted people. And, when we say things out-loud we stop those circles in our heads. The circles are just lines of words now. Called sentences.
3) Write it. Taking a cue from above. SENTENCES. (Or, words and periods 😉 ) Dump your drama. How wretched do you feel?– Let your laptop, notebook, neighbor’s foot get drippy with prose. And, if just writing feels odd, write to someone. Someone who you can handle the suck. Perhaps Charles Norris…
4) Love it. And, by it, I mean YOU. Your suck is just something that happened. Like breakfast. It will become nourishment too– when you realize how strong you are. We are always exactly strong enough. So, quit any victimization and congratulate yourself. Congratulate yourself on embracing alive.