“You can’t always get what you want
But if you try sometimes, well you might find
You get what you need“
Was he smart or just applying the hindsight bias where deep down we knew it all along…
AND, how often do we do this?: I didn’t really want that. This is what I need.
(Do you know what you need? Or, what you want?)
Want and Needs.
I’ve been thinking a lot about these. Discussing them. The logic would say that we live based on our needs. Cue Maslow:
Maslow created a hierarchy of needs that he asserts humans are driven to fulfill. We start at the bottom and try to actualize the layers. (To read more about Maslow’s hierarchy click!)
And, YES – I know wiki is NOT a good source!
What I am noticing though, is that I do not think we live to satisfy our needs. For real.
I think we are too want driven.
AND, it is not good for us. It’s a vapid ‘feel-good’ happiness that will not sustain us.
For instance, I know I need proper rest. (I went to bed after 1 am last night…) Bad for needs. Want driven. This happens in most vectors of our life. We search, crave, desire, WANT. We can look at our nourishment choices: How often do we make hedonistic want-driven decisions? I do not need that brownie or drink or _______ (insert vice or way to make your world numb). I want it.
Want trumps Need.
So, maybe growing up is accepting Mick and going straight to need. Or, we can be wooed by Maslow’s pitch of our final need / achievement:
“’What a [wo]man can be, [s]he must be.’This forms the basis of the perceived need for self-actualization. This level of need pertains to what a person’s full potential is and realizing that potential. Maslow describes this desire as the desire to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming. ” (Source)
Be what you need. Your best self.
But you might have to WANT it too 😛