Binaries

28 Apr

What if they did not exist?  I know.  I KNOW.  But go with me for a second…

Now, I’m not talking about mathematics.

(If you know me, you know I am glad some lovely person invented calculators…  And, that calculus is not in fact necessary for yoga 😛)

I’m talking about binaries in THOUGHT.  We have them all the time.  Good and bad; wrong and right; hard and easy; healthy and unhealthy; Spurs and Grizzlies…

What if we were to rename them?  Let’s say:  Purple and Teal.  When you start to feel that binding judgment come in you just color it… 

Did that trip you up?  Did the emotion behind your thought change?  How does a purple day feel? 

I’m not presenting this to mess with you.

But.

What would it be like to let go of the good and bad, right and wrong, black and white– a built-in, biased, ATTACHMENT way of looking at things?

Because it’s all going to change baby.  Always does.

BUT, if I see things as purple and teal maybe the change is easier to stomach.  It’s the LABELS that are the nasty buggers.  Errr… I mean orange buggers. 

It takes some getting used to :P.

Now.

Imagine…

A TECHNICOLOR way of thinking…  Compassionate and curious.  No loaded labels.  Instead, an entire rainbow of experience to just enjoy.  Temporal by nature.  And, that’s how it should be.

Although difficult to affect, this can be a more expansive way of intuiting my world than two staunch polarities

Experience flows.  Without bias or (self)critique.

Maybe it’s not so bad 😉

And, let’s look at Pema Chodron’s take on ‘Right‘ and ‘Wrong‘.  She’s AMAZING!:


We start with ourselves.  We make ourselves right or we make ourselves wrong, every day, every week, every month and year of our lives.  We feel that we have to be right so that we can feel good.  We don’t want to be wrong because then we’ll feel bad.  But we could be more compassionate toward all the parts of ourselves.

The whole right and wrong business closes us down and makes our world smaller.  Wanting situations and relationships to be solid, permanent, and graspable obscures the pith of the matter, which is that things are fundamentally groundless.

Instead of making others right or wrong, or bottling up right and wrong in ourselves, there’s a middle way.  We could see it as sitting on the razor’s edge and not falling off to the right or left.  This middle way involves not hanging on to our version so tightly.  It involves keeping our heart and minds open long enough to entertain the idea that when we make things wrong, we do it out of a desire to obtain some kind of ground or security.  Equally when we make things right, we are still trying to obtain some kind of ground or security.  Could our minds and our hearts be big enough to just hang out in that space where we’re not entirely certain about who’s right and who’s wrong? …  [T]rue communication can only happen in that open space.”  (Emphasis mine)


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2 Responses to “Binaries”

  1. Sarah April 28, 2011 at 12:16 pm #

    I really like the color idea–it’s such a good way to recognize differences without attaching value judgments. Maybe binaries will stop being destructive when we of the Western mind stop mistaking them for reality.

  2. Caroline May 19, 2011 at 5:41 am #

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