Abstinence Violation Effect

28 Jan

No.  This is not a post about Bristol Palin.

Did you know there is something called the “Abstinence Violation Effect” (AVE)?  Loosely, it refers to how we feel like crap after returning to old habits that we know are bad for us.  The terms speaks about the feelings of guilt compounded with the sense of a loss of control.  Originally, the AVE was used in literature around addiction, but this effect can be applied more globally.

Think about it.  How are those rules in your life working out for you?

I mention this because I have lived and now work around a world of extremes.  And, I have noticed that these hard rules- NEVER, SHOULD, CAN’T, STOP, MUST- create a lot of dis-ease.

Simply, it’s not when we are able to achieve ; the problem occurs when the NEVER becomes WHOOPS.  Now, please understand, I AM IN NO WAY ADVOCATING SYMPTOM USE OR ADDICTION.  If you believe you are suffering in this way, please, be kind, seek some help and support.

Still.  On the other hand.  What about a little bit of the soft, instead of the hard?  What about some self-imposed compassion for a change? ❤

Or.  Bristol Palin.

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3 Responses to “Abstinence Violation Effect”

  1. danielle January 28, 2011 at 6:00 pm #

    sounds good to me. thanks for sharing 🙂
    bristol palin might end up helping more people if she started talking about this kind of abstinence.

    • Jamie January 28, 2011 at 9:18 pm #

      Hmmm… Fan mail? :p

  2. danielle January 29, 2011 at 11:35 am #

    you’re a genius

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